Monday, December 28, 2009

Price of a relationship

I heard Ishfaq Ahmad several times talking about strong relationships or friendships, he was mainly emphasizing on people's collaboration & communication and the worth they give to their relationships.

Once in his program he talked about Cost of a relationship, it was brain buzzing idea! and since then i believe in "There is always a Price to keep a relationship" d'nt think me a materialistic or even Ishfaq Ahmad...but it is true that in our world, we have to buy every-single bit of our owe objects, we even silent or undisclosed mannerly buy our owing relationships.

Taking friendship under vision, there could be following properties one can presume i.e.

- How it was started?
- What was it's intensity?
- How often you practiced that friendship?
- What is the frequency now?
- What is it's price to keep it going at start?
- What is it's price to keep it going, now?
- How important is this friendship to you?

if you can find answer to above questions, for a particular relationship/friendship, you would probably find "How important a certain relationship/friendship is for you?".

lets take a case study and calculate Price to keep relationship/friendship.

Case: my ever first friendship that i can recall now! i.e. with "Seven Das Chohan"

so lets find the answers...

- How it was started?
He was my class-fellow in 1st grade, Sharing same Desk...

- What was it's intensity?
it was quite smooth, we never felt each other demanding.

- How often you practiced that friendship?
everyday :) as we were class fellows.

- What is the frequency now?
we stayed together until 5th grade, when he was depromoted and later left school to
get admission in a non-Muslim school, and then he just disappeared, so frequency is zero now.

- What is it's price to keep it going at start?
Not much notifiable, mostly sharing home work & lunch box & playing together in recess time...etc.

- What is it's price to keep it going, now?
as we are not in contact anymore, so cost is zero.

- How important is this friendship to you?
it is not important, i am living without it :-|

I am afraid to calculate Price of my current or living friendships/relationship as it could create several issue for me... :) anyhow it would be really interesting for you to take some time from your busy life and calculate the cost you bare to keep a relationship or friendship and then see how important is it!

I have noticed that there are many relationships or friendship i keep, they are costing me a lot, but i am willing to carry on with them, and there are some who's cost is just a phone call or chat or email once in a year, but still they have a great importance to me...

Disclaimer: D'nt break your friendship or relationship after reading this post, it is just to poke you, to think on your dead relationships/friendships or even on those which are going to be dead in near future, you should realize how small price you pay to keep some really enjoyable companies...

Moral, Friends & Relations are the actual assets we carry...

Cheers

3 comments:

sahar mehreen said...
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Sohail Akhtar said...

nice post
I agree friends are the real assest :)

sahar ahmad said...

Nayyar sucha nice startup to the quantification of friendship... :) well i wud like2 add here that the measurement of any relation/ frendship is indifferent of the duties you hold towards that relation... i mean we cant measure our mum/ dad/ sibling's/ even frends wid such profarmas coz sooo much of what we do for then is a part of our duty towards them... but yeah its really useful for at least giving a ping to our al relations..as while reading ur blog i had sum glimpses of ma childhood friends outa whom im in ciontact with just a few..but i miss them all.. *geo freinds* :D

cheers.. :)