I heard Ishfaq Ahmad several times talking about strong relationships or friendships, he was mainly emphasizing on people's collaboration & communication and the worth they give to their relationships.
Once in his program he talked about Cost of a relationship, it was brain buzzing idea! and since then i believe in "There is always a Price to keep a relationship" d'nt think me a materialistic or even Ishfaq Ahmad...but it is true that in our world, we have to buy every-single bit of our owe objects, we even silent or undisclosed mannerly buy our owing relationships.
Taking friendship under vision, there could be following properties one can presume i.e.
- How it was started?
- What was it's intensity?
- How often you practiced that friendship?
- What is the frequency now?
- What is it's price to keep it going at start?
- What is it's price to keep it going, now?
- How important is this friendship to you?
if you can find answer to above questions, for a particular relationship/friendship, you would probably find "How important a certain relationship/friendship is for you?".
lets take a case study and calculate Price to keep relationship/friendship.
Case: my ever first friendship that i can recall now! i.e. with "Seven Das Chohan"
so lets find the answers...
- How it was started?
He was my class-fellow in 1st grade, Sharing same Desk...
- What was it's intensity?
it was quite smooth, we never felt each other demanding.
- How often you practiced that friendship?
everyday :) as we were class fellows.
- What is the frequency now?
we stayed together until 5th grade, when he was depromoted and later left school to
get admission in a non-Muslim school, and then he just disappeared, so frequency is zero now.
- What is it's price to keep it going at start?
Not much notifiable, mostly sharing home work & lunch box & playing together in recess time...etc.
- What is it's price to keep it going, now?
as we are not in contact anymore, so cost is zero.
- How important is this friendship to you?
it is not important, i am living without it :-|
I am afraid to calculate Price of my current or living friendships/relationship as it could create several issue for me... :) anyhow it would be really interesting for you to take some time from your busy life and calculate the cost you bare to keep a relationship or friendship and then see how important is it!
I have noticed that there are many relationships or friendship i keep, they are costing me a lot, but i am willing to carry on with them, and there are some who's cost is just a phone call or chat or email once in a year, but still they have a great importance to me...
Disclaimer: D'nt break your friendship or relationship after reading this post, it is just to poke you, to think on your dead relationships/friendships or even on those which are going to be dead in near future, you should realize how small price you pay to keep some really enjoyable companies...
Moral, Friends & Relations are the actual assets we carry...
Cheers
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Monday, December 28, 2009
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Ultrasound aur Molvi
When I was in Metric (10th grade), we were introduced to mathematical theorems, most of them were really boring & were passing by my head, but somehow i remembered few of them, not complete text ofcourse :) but at least the idea behind or the results... some of them are really interesting and amazing.
for example, two diagonal line will have always same angle on opposite sides.
i.e. in figure a=b & c=d , is't it interesting ?
there was another one, which is really interesting i.e.
Two parallel line will never colloid each other :)
this is really interesting, in our surrounding you will observe it in everyday happening, if two things are in parallel they have no chance to colloid, if and only if they keep themselves parallel.
i remember my childhood days, when we were use to go for Juma(Friday) Prayers & were listening to our Molvi's speech on several issues, he was sometime very scientific as he turn his speech direction to science & Islam, most of the time he was proving that what science is saying is exactly according to Islam, to consolidate his arguments, he was mostly giving us examples.
such as, drinking water in Islamic way, sleeping, fasting etc... as a matter of fact, there are many :)
But sometimes he become really annoyed with scientist around the world and he was saying about "What science CANNOT achieve", then his speech became more interesting because he was use to explain several issue where scientist were hopeless at that time.
The most frequently used example was "Baby Gender detection, before birth" he was use to say us, look innocent muslims...all these scientist are working on many big inventions, they even went in space & moon, but they are still unable to detect baby's gender before it's birth!
This is true at that time we were really amazed by his example...and most of the Juma (Friday) prayer crowd was praising his knowledge & way of convincing us towards religion.
But what happen just few years after, science & scientist were able to detect baby's gender through Ultrasound technology, even more they now reached to a technology level, where through medical exams they can even predict the baby's abilities & disabilities, beyond that they are now producing human organs & test tube babies, genetic engineering is a known field to everyone...
This is fact, that his example was not reference from any authentic Islamic book, it was his own perception about science & he just without giving it a second thought threw to us, but what happen next, he disturbed people's belief with his own false statements, now imagine what a person of that time will think about Islam, did Scientist proved Islam is wrong? or Islam is outdated ? or even Islam has nothing to do with science ?
keep in mind that this statement was widely used in Islam & Science lectures throughout Pakistan and it was very popular argument among Molvi Hazrat.
i wish our Molvlies should take some time and think about mathematical laws, if you are parallel you have no chance of collision.
cheers
for example, two diagonal line will have always same angle on opposite sides.
i.e. in figure a=b & c=d , is't it interesting ?
there was another one, which is really interesting i.e.
Two parallel line will never colloid each other :)
this is really interesting, in our surrounding you will observe it in everyday happening, if two things are in parallel they have no chance to colloid, if and only if they keep themselves parallel.
i remember my childhood days, when we were use to go for Juma(Friday) Prayers & were listening to our Molvi's speech on several issues, he was sometime very scientific as he turn his speech direction to science & Islam, most of the time he was proving that what science is saying is exactly according to Islam, to consolidate his arguments, he was mostly giving us examples.
such as, drinking water in Islamic way, sleeping, fasting etc... as a matter of fact, there are many :)
But sometimes he become really annoyed with scientist around the world and he was saying about "What science CANNOT achieve", then his speech became more interesting because he was use to explain several issue where scientist were hopeless at that time.
The most frequently used example was "Baby Gender detection, before birth" he was use to say us, look innocent muslims...all these scientist are working on many big inventions, they even went in space & moon, but they are still unable to detect baby's gender before it's birth!
This is true at that time we were really amazed by his example...and most of the Juma (Friday) prayer crowd was praising his knowledge & way of convincing us towards religion.
But what happen just few years after, science & scientist were able to detect baby's gender through Ultrasound technology, even more they now reached to a technology level, where through medical exams they can even predict the baby's abilities & disabilities, beyond that they are now producing human organs & test tube babies, genetic engineering is a known field to everyone...
This is fact, that his example was not reference from any authentic Islamic book, it was his own perception about science & he just without giving it a second thought threw to us, but what happen next, he disturbed people's belief with his own false statements, now imagine what a person of that time will think about Islam, did Scientist proved Islam is wrong? or Islam is outdated ? or even Islam has nothing to do with science ?
keep in mind that this statement was widely used in Islam & Science lectures throughout Pakistan and it was very popular argument among Molvi Hazrat.
i wish our Molvlies should take some time and think about mathematical laws, if you are parallel you have no chance of collision.
cheers
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Waseem ki Bermuda Triangle
Waseem here is not because i am trying to bash him, in fact, i was thinking for long to post about some non-Islamic stories/tales those are developed among unaware Muslims & because of their poor general or Islamic knowledge or even less interest in research, they easily get victimize to such tales.
Few months ago, Waseem (ex-house mate) visited me with another friend (both are of almost same caliber in religious beliefs), though Waseem recently converted from SUNI MUSLIM to SHIA for many unknown reason :) anyhow we went to an open restaurant near by beach & were exchanging views on several topics, somehow Waseem started praising his new boss who is again a SHIA Muslim and so called PPP (Pakistan People Party) member though he lost in recent election but he is an active member of his kind. So Waseem started saying many things about him, and suddenly he turned to his boss's vast Islamic knowledge, he said, my boss has explained me Where POSSIBLY be The IMAM MEHDI. if you read carefully the Wikipedia link, even me, was unable to find the exact location where Muslims are expecting him to arrive! but his boss is confirmed & presented his own theory!
According to Waseem's boss, Imam Mehdi is in Bermuda Triangle ! a minute of silence...
Just out of my curiosity, even though i had already read about Bermuda Triangle, i asked him what is Bermuda Triangle? that made him in driving seat. He started like...
Bermuda Triangle is in an ocean (remember he was'nt clear where exactly it is!) and it has a big water Twister, anything including ships , airplanes etc... when pass through that triangle, they get disappear, even birds cannot fly over that triangle, our Imam Mehdi is seating there and waiting for his time, he does not allow anything to fly our him. Sooner or later he will come out, though according to his boss there are already many indication of his arrival! I was reluctant to make any comments on his boss narrated tale but at the same time, i was thinking why he is such firm believer of this kind of rumor, just because his boss has quoted or Waseems likes telling stories, or this is human nature, or something else?
if for a second you keep your belief aside & start thinking on, what if someone tells you that miles in depth of water, there is a human being living, in this current time, you will take it as a joke, imagine today NASA & other research center already have reached to heights of space in search of life, they never thought about going under Bermuda triangle ? answer to me is simple, their scientist are not idiots.
If you take ten minutes and read brief about Bermuda triangle, for example following is a paragraph taken from Wikipedia.
"The area is one of the most heavily-sailed shipping lanes in the world, with ships crossing through it daily for ports in the Americas, Europe, and the Caribbean Islands. Cruise ships are also plentiful, and pleasure craft regularly go back and forth between Florida and the islands. It is also a heavily flown route for commercial and private aircraft heading towards Florida, the Caribbean, and South America from points north."
According to statistics of accident happened in the area with movements of ships & airplanes, it is QUITE SAFE ZONE.
I was since then thinking often why Waseem belief undoubtedly on his boss's philosophy who is not even graduated from any sort of educational institute, who was an illegal immigrant in Japan & made money by selling Japanese used cars, Who fought under recently elections winning party (PPP) banner & he might be seating in future Pakistan's National or Provisional Assembly.
until last week, when i read Paul Graham's this essay where he gave a brilliant thought about people's identity, according to him, Politics is a part of our identity, while during reading of his article i realize that Politics & Religion both serve same in our identity, and the article even covers our Religious affiliation (*this correction is made after Zeenix comment*), which make us discuss it without having it's proper knowledge.
i would request you, not to take this post as non-Islamic or against some SHIA belief, but think on your identity, think on your belief, see how low actually we know about that Topics we discuss, should we try to avoid spreading such belief, instead of defending them without any research!
Cheers
Few months ago, Waseem (ex-house mate) visited me with another friend (both are of almost same caliber in religious beliefs), though Waseem recently converted from SUNI MUSLIM to SHIA for many unknown reason :) anyhow we went to an open restaurant near by beach & were exchanging views on several topics, somehow Waseem started praising his new boss who is again a SHIA Muslim and so called PPP (Pakistan People Party) member though he lost in recent election but he is an active member of his kind. So Waseem started saying many things about him, and suddenly he turned to his boss's vast Islamic knowledge, he said, my boss has explained me Where POSSIBLY be The IMAM MEHDI. if you read carefully the Wikipedia link, even me, was unable to find the exact location where Muslims are expecting him to arrive! but his boss is confirmed & presented his own theory!
According to Waseem's boss, Imam Mehdi is in Bermuda Triangle ! a minute of silence...
Just out of my curiosity, even though i had already read about Bermuda Triangle, i asked him what is Bermuda Triangle? that made him in driving seat. He started like...
Bermuda Triangle is in an ocean (remember he was'nt clear where exactly it is!) and it has a big water Twister, anything including ships , airplanes etc... when pass through that triangle, they get disappear, even birds cannot fly over that triangle, our Imam Mehdi is seating there and waiting for his time, he does not allow anything to fly our him. Sooner or later he will come out, though according to his boss there are already many indication of his arrival! I was reluctant to make any comments on his boss narrated tale but at the same time, i was thinking why he is such firm believer of this kind of rumor, just because his boss has quoted or Waseems likes telling stories, or this is human nature, or something else?
if for a second you keep your belief aside & start thinking on, what if someone tells you that miles in depth of water, there is a human being living, in this current time, you will take it as a joke, imagine today NASA & other research center already have reached to heights of space in search of life, they never thought about going under Bermuda triangle ? answer to me is simple, their scientist are not idiots.
If you take ten minutes and read brief about Bermuda triangle, for example following is a paragraph taken from Wikipedia.
"The area is one of the most heavily-sailed shipping lanes in the world, with ships crossing through it daily for ports in the Americas, Europe, and the Caribbean Islands. Cruise ships are also plentiful, and pleasure craft regularly go back and forth between Florida and the islands. It is also a heavily flown route for commercial and private aircraft heading towards Florida, the Caribbean, and South America from points north."
According to statistics of accident happened in the area with movements of ships & airplanes, it is QUITE SAFE ZONE.
I was since then thinking often why Waseem belief undoubtedly on his boss's philosophy who is not even graduated from any sort of educational institute, who was an illegal immigrant in Japan & made money by selling Japanese used cars, Who fought under recently elections winning party (PPP) banner & he might be seating in future Pakistan's National or Provisional Assembly.
until last week, when i read Paul Graham's this essay where he gave a brilliant thought about people's identity, according to him, Politics is a part of our identity, while during reading of his article i realize that Politics & Religion both serve same in our identity, and the article even covers our Religious affiliation (*this correction is made after Zeenix comment*), which make us discuss it without having it's proper knowledge.
i would request you, not to take this post as non-Islamic or against some SHIA belief, but think on your identity, think on your belief, see how low actually we know about that Topics we discuss, should we try to avoid spreading such belief, instead of defending them without any research!
Cheers
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Confidence!
sometimes when i am surfing through blogs, i get inspired by people who share their small yet heavily weighted thoughts...same happen when i read Vin Diesel facebook blog post!
i agree with his father!
cheers
"Confidence is the most important thing you can teach someone... if you can teach them confidence, you don't have to teach them anything else."
i agree with his father!
cheers
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